WHY LOVING YOURSELF WILL HELP YOU WIN AT LIFE
I think as human beings loving ourselves and accepting who we are is one of the hardest things we’ll ever do.
I find myself in a constant battle of accepting who I am, even as I write this. I tell you this because I want you to know and understand that you’re not alone. I have those days too.
It’s easy to get caught up with having a perfect life but it’s important to realize that this isn’t a contest this is our life we’re talking about. The journey is the best part!
In today’s world, you can go on social media and someone’s life can seem perfect but behind closed doors, they may be going through their own personal struggles and insecurities.
We all live with these struggles and those can look very different for all of us but paving your own way and loving yourself while doing it is extremely essential to living an abundant life.
Loving who you are and accepting this journey as your own will help you win at life and here’s why:
1. YOU BEGIN TO ATTRACT BETTER THINGS
By taking the time to get to know who you are and appreciating that person you start to feel good inside. When you start to feel good inside it shows on the outside. When the outside world begins to see and feel this transformation is slowly but surely attracts better things, better situations, better people.
2. BUILDS SELF-CONFIDENCE
When you slowly being to cater to your needs and give yourself what you ask for, you start building confidence in yourself. You become more radiant in all that you do.
People who know you will begin to see you glow and you’ll start to feel good about yourself in all areas of your life.
3. YOU BEGIN TO SEE FAILURES/TOUGH SITUATIONS AS LEARNING EXPERIENCES
When we don’t love who we are we see failures as a bad thing. We punish ourselves for trying! Failures are attempts we make at something new so how can this be a bad thing? We should want to step out of our comfort and try something new otherwise we’ll be living the same stagnant life.
By loving yourself you begin to have more compassion when these failures arrive at your doorstep. You actually begin to embrace them as learning experiences in your life. You welcome them as good things and you’re no longer afraid of their arrival.
I speak from experience. I use to be afraid to fail and now when I do fail or things don’t come out how I expect them I always ask myself, “what did I learn in this situation?” “What did the universe want to teach me?”
Love yourself, and failures will be embraced as wins.
4. OVERTHINKING STARTS TO MINIMIZE
I never in a million years thought I would stop overthinking and obsessing over situations. I always thought the worst about all scenarios. I would give myself panic attacks because of how obsessed I was about my overthinking.
Don’t get me wrong I still do this from time to time but when I started to get to know myself more and nurtured my own needs this overthinking began to minimize.
When I started to care about myself and began to live a more present life the obsession over situations I couldn’t control slowly dissipated. I began to feel at peace when I realized that obsessing over things wasn’t healthy for me and it wouldn’t change a damn thing anyway.
So, love yourself and overthinking will slowly begin to disappear.
5. YOU STOP CARING WHAT PEOPLE THINK
It’s easy to fall into the trap of caring what others think. I’m guilty of that myself but things started changing up when I looked inside myself and asked why. Why did I care about what others think if the only person who should validate my decisions and my life is me?
Once I started loving myself caring about what others thought started to disappear. This doesn’t mean that sometimes it doesn’t cross my mind and it all just vanished but it’s easier to talk myself out of that mindset.
Plus who wants to live in that negative space of always caring about others opinions and thoughts? I sure didn’t which is why I decided to nurture myself first and care about others later or better yet, never!
6. START DOING THINGS FROM AN ORGANIC PLACE
Without knowing, sometimes we tend to do things to impress people we don’t even care about. We do things to try and help others which is amazing but we end up losing our “why we started in the first place”.
By finding and loving yourself you start to naturally do things from a more organic place. Your passions have more meaning than they ever did before. Creativity starts to come more naturally and ideas begin to overflow.
When you love yourself organic becomes the new trend.
7. YOU START TO MAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF WITHOUT QUESTION
You become so addicted to self-care and self-love that you start to make it a part of your routine. This routine then turns into a lifestyle which in turn brings you back to all the things I just listed above. It attracts you to better things, failure/tough situations are seen as learning experiences, overthinking starts to minimize, you stop caring what people think, and you start doing things from a more organic place.