HOW TO REFLECT ON THE LAST DECADE & START THE NEW ONE
Updated: Dec 28, 2019
With the new decade around the corner, it’s important that we reflect on the good, bad and stagnant.
Why is it important to reflect? Because it helps to visually see what you’ve done over the last ten years (yes ten years!) and it also gives your perspective on where you hope to go for the next ten.
Visions and dreams constantly change so it’s important that you reflect on the things you feel you did well so you can continue doing them. It's also important because you'll be able to see the things you can improve on and work on them.
So how do you even start? Ten years sounds so overwhelming! How can you possibly reflect on all ten years? Well, you’re in luck because I’m here to help you slay this ten-year reflection, your future goals and live a boss life with confidence and action.
Here are the 10 questions I want you to ask yourself:
1. Where did you find success?
What are you most proud of this decade? Where did you win? Remember to celebrate even the smallest wins because they help build the person you’ve become today.
2. What were your failures?
Be honest with yourself for this one. I know this one can be tough but just know that it’s okay to fail. Failures are lessons that help you grow so while reviewing this one just know that failure is inevitable and you should be proud that you even took the necessary steps to fail and learn. This is also a way to move forward and be honest about where you weren’t successful. Maybe it was something you didn’t give your all to or something you said you would do but didn’t.
3. What did you enjoy the most?
One of the most important things in life is to enjoy yourself. Now ask yourself this, are you truly passionate about the work you do? Are you enjoying the types of relationships with your significant other, your friends, your family? By being honest you’re analyzing whether or not you need to make a change in your career, job or relationships.
4. What regrets do you have?
Is there anything you wish you had spent more time doing? Were there any incredible opportunities, big or small, that you passed up and wish you hadn’t? Is there a relationship that you wish you would’ve worked on whether it’s with yourself, a loved one or a friend? I understand how difficult these questions can be but it’s a sure way to help heal and move forward into the new decade.
5. What lessons have you learned?
What lessons did life teach you in the last decade? How can you improve yourself through these lessons? Learning is a part of our experience and growth so understanding them will help you prepare for any situations that may arise in the future.
6. What do plan on doing differently?
Writing down the lessons that life has taught you is the easy part but acting on them and planning on how you want and will do things differently is the monster you have to conquer. Remember that actioning these things is what will allow you to grow this next decade so be the person who follows through and does things differently.
7. What do you feel that you need more of?
Analyze your life and see what it is you need more of. Do you need to spend more time with family? Do you need to become more organized? Do you feel like you need to make more time for self-care? Evaluate yourself and see what you need to spend more time doing to make life better, simpler, happier.
8. Where do your goals/dreams stand as of today?
Review last year’s goals and ask yourself where you stand as of today. Were you able to make some of your goals/dreams come true? Did you make a plan and follow through with it? Review your goals and determine where you are with them. Analyze whether you need to spend more of your time reaching them or if you need to change them altogether.
If you didn’t reflect last year and this is all new to you thats okay! Write all your goals today and make sure to save a copy for next year’s reflection. It’ll make you more accountable for making things happen and will give you a game plan to follow.
9. What negative habits do you need to stop doing?
Are there any bad habits that you would like to stop? We all have them. Maybe a bad habit of smoking cigarettes? Maybe you spend too much money? You’re late more often than not? Disorganized? Whatever that may be for you, try to slowly replace your negative habits with positive behaviors. I promise it’ll make a difference in the decade to come.
10. What goals do you have for the new decade?
After all this reflecting, review and revise the goals you have for the next ten years. Once you’ve conquered that beast, break it down to yearly goals. What is truly achievable for 2020 that will allow your ten-year goals to happen? Maybe you’re modifying previous goals or making up entirely new ones. Make sure to constantly check-in with these goals every 90 days to stay on track and make changes as needed.
Making these reflections for the New Year will allow you to be the artist of your life. We can’t always control what happens but we can make sure to reflect and become better people so we can handle situations in a better way. This reflection will help you take charge and fix habits that you may not necessarily like. Although it may be difficult to accept some of the answers to these questions they are crucial in the development of who you are and what you want to become. So be honest, I'm here cheering you on to a new decade of a success and fulfillment!
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